Goal Setting, Mind, Personal Growth

A Psychiatrist Learns From His Patients

These are things that I have learned from my patients in treatment over the years. They are some of the most important lessons that one can receive in life.

-The opposite of love is indifference.

-The best revenge is living well.

-The best way to raise a good child is for the parents to love each other.

-The difference between theory and practice is greater in practice than it is in theory.

-The essence of psychotherapy is to learn to understand, then forgive and forget.

-Everyone is entitled to make mistakes.

-If you get the first 25 years of your life right, the next 75 years take care of themselves

-The only self-help book you need is yourself.

-Medication helps about ten percent, therapy about ninety percent.

-Be an ant, not a grasshopper.

-Life is what happens after 5:00 p.m.

-Most people’s idea of the ideal family comes from television.

-Even the Simpsons are happy.

-To be happy in a relationship requires you to first be happy with yourself.

-G-d provides opportunities.

-You can never have too much education.

-You can have too much therapy.

-Sometimes, it takes years of therapy to reach an answer so obvious that it was always there.

-In therapy, the patient has all of the answers. The physician only helps him find them.

-The most important part of anyone’s life is the first six years. Treat them like gold.

-A little obsessiveness is not a bad thing.

-Mind the holes in anyone with a swiss cheese ego.

-If you sleep well at night, you can probably deal with most of your problems pretty well.

-Pick your fights.

-Depression is anger turned toward the self.

-Never be jealous of your children.

-The key to a good marriage is compromise.

-Most any psychiatric diagnosis given to a child is only a guess.

-Grudges only hurt the grudge-holder.

-The psychotherapist may not cure disease, but helps patients to learn how to love.

-There are two spheres of life – the home sphere and the work sphere. We need calm in one of them.

-In general, people are searching for peace and quiet.

-Almost everything truly is small stuff.

-The ego is soluble in alcohol.

-Television is not necessarily bad for children.

-To understand the concept of ambivalence, think of sitting in your car at a red light. You cannot decide to turn left or right. The light changes to green and the cars behind you start to honk. You still are just sitting there.

-Ruminating about the past is like watching the same movie over and over again and hoping that the ending changes.

-Look for answers where you’ll find them, not simply where the light is better.

-Intimacy starts with holding hands and saying I love you.

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